Sandra Kay Milam, 74, of Elkview, WV, died peacefully on January 10, 2023, after an
illness
.
Born November 15, 1948, to Rufus and Lila Jarrett of St. Albans, WV, Kay was a loving
wife, mother, teacher, and friend. She spent over thirty years working in Kanawha County
Schools, serving most of her career at Herbert Hoover High School and John Adams Middle
School. She considered every student one of “her kids,” and although she never taught in the
classroom, many considered her their favorite teacher. She also served most of her adult life in
various capacities at Elkview Baptist Church. She will be missed by the community that adopted
her as one of their own when she married in 1968.
Kay was preceded in death by her cherished husband of 49 years, Richard Milam. They
were a team who worked, played, and served the community together. She was also a loving
mother to Travis (Jackie) of Pfafftown, NC, and Ruth Ann Milam of Elkview. Her beloved
grandsons Micah and Jonah Milam of Frederick, MD, and Isaiah and Dalton Milam of Pfafftown,
NC, remember her as the loving MawMaw who played games, watched House Hunters, and
generally let them do what they wanted to do. Special granddaughter, Sarah (Cody) Carnefix, of
Liberty, WV, remains the only girl, and Kay treasured her relationship with her “red-headed step
son,” Chad (Ryanne) Parker, of Charleston, WV.
Kay was also preceded in death by her parents, Rufus and Lila Jarrett. In addition to her
children and grandchildren, she is survived by her brother, Donald (Connie) Jarrett of
Noblesville, IN, brothers-in-law David (Charlene) Milam and William (Darlene) Milam,
sisters-in-law Anna Lynn, Janet Rogers, Mary Rogers, and Lois Pendleberry, and many nieces,
nephews, and friends she considered family.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Cross Lanes Christian School (Mrs. Milam
Memorial Fund, www.crosslanes.org), First Presbyterian Church of Pilot Mountain, NC, or to the
local educational, children’s, or faith-based charity of your choice.
Funeral services will be held at Elkview Baptist Church on Sunday, January 15, 2023, at 3:00pm, with a visitation on Saturday, January 14, 2023, from 5:00-7:00 pm.
Online condolences may be sent to www.haferfuneralhome.net
Arrangements are in the care of Hafer Funeral Home, 50 North Pinch Road, Elkview, WV 25071.